This weeks Saturday Guardian had an interview with Fiona Philips, (ex GMTV presenter). She has a new book “Before I forget”, just out. She talks about both her parents who suffered dementia.
This coincided with part of my holiday experience this year, hearing about ageing parents and how distressing it is for the children: mourning for that person you were so intimately attached to who diminishes, in front of you.
My friends Joe and Josephine have read “Contented Dementia” by Oliver James, Joe’s mother has dementia.
Josephine tells me it’s important to listen to, and enter into, the reality of the person concerned.
Well that makes sense to me. If I’m confused, someone who enters into my confusion with me and talks to me from there, is far more likely to be a consolation to me than someone who talks over me, or about me as if I’m wallpaper.
That person believes me and is seeing the world from my perspective.